WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HATE THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU ?

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HATE PEOPLE AROUND YOU?

 IT CAN BE VERY  INTIMIDATING WHEN YOU REGULARLY SEE THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WHOM YOU DON'T LIKE!

They can be either your classmates, colleagues, and even your family members, that feeling of irritability when you see them or meet them is beyond measurements in your mind. This can be very costly in the long term if you don't address the things right now because, for example:- if you don't like your parents then you can't just leave your house because you aren't earning enough to arrange food, clothes, and day to day necessities, according to your current situation you just can't survive in this harsh world. Let's take another example:- you can't just leave your job because you don't like your colleagues because your whole family is dependent on you, your kids, your wife, or your parents. So it's definitely not a good idea to just show your temporary anger & rebel against things because it'll make your life difficult in long term.

SO, YOU NEED TO RE-STRATEGIZE THINGS BEFORE TAKING ANY ACTION!

Let's analyze things logically and let's try to solve your problem because " YOU MATTER "

There might be a possibility that you don't like anyone, you have a problem with nearly everyone, for example:- if you are in a classroom or school and you don't like any of your classmate, not even a single person and there can be numerous examples like this.

In this case ( when you don't like even a single person around you ) then there is a possibility that there is a problem with you! YES, it might sound like someone dropped a bomb over your head but that's the truth. Whenever you meet anyone, you introduce your reality to the people around you and the same thing applies in their case also.

So there is a level of adjustment & a level of capacity of a person, whenever you talk to anyone you carefully analyze their behaviour, reaction, response & and their ability to take humour, it's like you introduces a level of boundaries regarding how far you and the person in front of you can go in the long term. You might have felt at many places that you don't fit there just because the level of talk, the topic of discussion, or the culture was different, although you might have not said that openly but you must have felt it inside you.

You need to develop the FLEXIBILITY within you so that at least you can introduce yourself to new people/culture or environment or at least avoid the conflict & chaos for your own self because now this is the least worst-case scenario because now even if you don't like people around you, at least even then you can avoid any conflict with them and the conflict within your brain. You only feel out of place which is much better than indulging in any kind of fight, argument or power dynamics between people and you even though you disagree with them and the best-case scenario is you to be or find the people of your type! who match the level of conversation, range of topics & humour. Find the people who match the wavelength of your conversation and avoid indulging with the people you don't like at least on the mental level, if not on the physical level.

You don't have to fight with anyone or even with your own self because in both cases your happiness index will decrease which is certainly not good. Develop a level of ADAPTABILITY within you to entertain an idea without accepting it! this is one of the most important skills which will take you very far in life, this is the sign of a smart and diplomatic person. IF you develop this then you can fit in any group without actually fitting in it. Self Reflection is what you need to do, think about the things which you don't like about people and there might be the possibility that the things due to which you don't like them are the things which you need to focus upon within you too because sometimes the problem is inside you, so think of all those things and try if you can fix them within you or at least develop a bit of negotiation regarding those things, and You don't have to be extraordinary in this, just give yourself time to reflect inside you about the things you don't like of others and create a healthy boundary with people and if they don't respect it then stop engaging with them mentally, and if possible then stay away from them as much as you can.

The so-called motivational speakers, self-help gurus, and feel good selling YouTubers will going to tell you to stay away from such people BUT! it is not possible in many cases,

so don't listen to anyone just to satisfy the temporary craving in you and think logically to create a healthy environment around you and remember!

IT'S ONLY YOU WHO CAN SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS.